I think a lot of times when people who are unemployed are in this kind of crappy "place" - no job, no income, little socializing - it's very easy to concentrate on the things you don't have, can't do, can't afford, wish you could do and should be doing. Especially during the holidays.
I wish I could buy exactly what I wanted to get for my friends an family to make them happy... I can't come to your party since I can't afford to buy anything to bring with me and then I'll feel like even more of a loser... If only I could afford my electric bill AND presents.
Yea, it sucks to be in this situation. But you know what focusing on all of that gets you? NOTHING. It doesn't make you all of a sudden be able to afford everything you want to give. It won't make any elves pay your bills. And it makes you and the people around you miserable. Seriously. But you know what people want? They want you to be happy. I know it is so difficult to get passed that (BELIEVE ME, I KNOW) and when you don't have anything else going on, sometimes it is hard to even see past everything you don't have.
So that's when you have to pull your head out of your ass and look at everything you DO have. The people who support you no matter how much of an asshole you can be sometimes (and by 'you' I mean 'I')... the ones who will say "It's ok & thank you" to getting presents from the Dollar Store this year even though they may not mean it... the roof over your head and food on your plate even if it's for one more day...
So do this for yourself and the people around you this holiday. Take some time out and focus on the things that are still in your life right at this moment that make you smile... I know there's something. Trying to shift that focus is tough, but it can help. I want this to be a forum where we can celebrate our accomplishments, no matter how small they may seem.
You woke up, didn't you? That's something, dammit. Start there....
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